We all experience emotional pain.  It is part of life, just like physical pain.  However, we have all sorts of resources to deal with the physical.  But most of us get stuck in our emotional pain— we accept it as just part of life.

We do not need to live with chronic anger, fear, shame, stress, sadness, depression, or jealousy.  Learning to identify and consciously let go of emotional pain is a critical life skill we can learn.

Letting go is a technique and a technology that can be mastered.  We think we do not have resources to address emotional pain but actually we do. We have the ability—we just need to be taught how.

Emotional pain directly contributes to chronic physical pain and illness present in our culture.  On an even broader basis, it is the cause of primary struggles within our families, in our relationships, and at work.

The presence of emotional pain can be identified when we acknowledge chronic negative emotion.  Examples are episodes of depression, anger or rage, deep sadness, feelings of loss, anxiety and fear.  Or simply a feeling that there is something we are missing in life— something unidentifiable that bothers us.

As a culture, to cope with our emotional pain, we “handle” or just ignore our pain. We create rigid structures and self-defeating habits.  Many of us cope with our emotional pain with addictions and/or drives:  chronic eating, drugs and alcohol, are a workaholic, co-dependent behavior, withdrawal, escapism, over-control of self and others, or any behavior that you would like to change.

Coping creates stress.  Stress is one of the primary signal flags that pushes us to let go of what makes us feel bad.

This is not therapy or mysticism.  We have all intuitively let go of something.  Most people carry emotional pain for years or decades.  Conscious letting go is part of your built in equipment—you were simply not taught how to access this skill.

You can discover conscious letting go in as little as an hour.  You can learn the skill of identifying emotional pain. You can even learn to assist others to identify and let go with specific, intensive training.

We hope you will explore this skill and upgrade your life.  Not only will you learn to let go but the impact will begin to affect everyone around you in a positive way.

People who learn to let go find it life transforming.  Often times it triggers a whole new phase of life that connects us with a renewed sense of purpose and meaning.  Aspects of life that have seemed like a struggle are no longer so burdensome.

Letting go is a new beginning of a life bursting with opportunity and creative expression. Letting go frees you to be more effective, you become a better communicator, you will find people listen to you and just want to be around you more.

Business leaders find that that they become more profitable, and creative.  Letting go leads to less stress and struggle, greater life balance without sacrificing productivity and career.

Go for a life where you don’t have to live with chronic emotional pain and its consequences.

Call us 208-263-4586 to find out more and begin to let go of your pain.

 

 

Step 6 to less stress: Inner-Knowing, the Payoff

by Kyle Mercer on April 24, 2011

The whole process I have been writing about from Recognition through Letting Go is aimed to allow you to access your Inner-Knowing.  Your Inner-Knowing is the most powerful part of you and the part of you that provides deeply informed and effective responses to what occurs in your life.  By accessing your Inner-Knowing you become more you, the authentic you, who want to be.

Inner-Knowing comes from the most profound part of you, some people may call it your spirit, or your authentic self.  I like to think of it as your unconditioned self, the you that came into the world.

All great insight comes from this Inner-Knowing place within you. Everything we do well, we do from Inner-Knowing.  This is why we often solve our problems when we stop thinking about it, or when we sleep on it.  Inner-Knowing does not come from your head, it needs some space, some openness to show up.

It is very difficult to access Inner-Knowing when we are thinking; all of that mind activity gets in the way.  It is also very difficult to access it when we are emotional.  This is why we often look back and wish we could take back what we said, or get the insight later of what we could have said that would have been much better.

Don’t say that, then “your are going to control your emotions and just be logical” that is not the way.  You have to address your emotions, do your emotional work so you can create that inner peace, the comfort, the feeling of fitting into your own skin that brings forth your Inner-Knowing.

We all would like to spend more time coming from our Inner-Knowing—it feels so good.  We can when everything is going just right and we are relaxed and in our element.  Unfortunately life is not always like that.  This is why we need to do our work, the process of Recognition—Safety—Awareness—Letting Go. When we do this we reconnect with our Inner-Knowing again and become brilliant creators of our own life.

Because it is uncomfortable or unfamiliar for you—and most people in the world—you put huge amounts of energy into avoiding doing your emotional work.  I often wish I could sit with each one of you to help you do your emotional work. I know it would change your life. I have seen the transformation so many times.

I hope that I have inspired you to do what you need to do to access and inspire your Inner-Knowing. It will change your life. It can change the world.  And the world needs it.

Namaste—”The spirit in me respects the spirit in you”, Kyle

Step 5 to less stress: Letting Go

April 13, 2011

The Garden Company teaches you to live with less stress. To create the life you want there are six steps. Over the last several months we have covered the first four steps. Here we talk about the fifth step of Letting Go. Letting go is the process allows you to release what holds you back. [...]

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“Pull the string, and it will follow wherever you wish. Push it, and it will go nowhere at all.” ~ Dwight D. Eisenhower

October 24, 2010
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Resistance, Safety and Creativity Resistance is our response to control. I used to believe that I needed to blast through my own and others resistance; it was a frustrating and painful process. Whenever resistance is present either internally or externally it is important to be aware of it, it is providing a critical message that [...]

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Step 4 to Less Stress: Emotional Awareness

September 9, 2010

In the Garden Company process to living with less stress and creating the life you want there are six steps. Over the last several months we have covered the first three steps. This article covers the fourth step, emotional awareness. Emotional awareness follows safety or sanctuary (Safety or Stress? Part Three in a Series).  Sanctuary [...]

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Safety or Stress? Part Three in a Series

August 31, 2010

This is the third article in a series on living with less stress and creating the lasting change you want for you life. The first article explained Denial, the second Recognition. Those articles can be found below. This article deals with sanctuary. Once we are firmly grounded in Recognition, the awareness that something in our [...]

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Why I Can’t Heal My Pain

July 28, 2010

Image via Wikipedia Imagine if you were born and gradually over the years you started to accumulate physical pain, things that happened to you would not heal.  Some of the injuries were obvious, cuts and broken bones of a a lifetime were obvious and came in an instance,  some hurts were subtle and so gradual [...]

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The Student Mountain Experience

June 24, 2010

We are just finishing up (one more day to go) the Student Mountain Experience. We are at the YMCA of the Rockies in Estes Park Colorado. The weather has been great and the location incredibly beautiful. What is totally impressive is this group of young adults. The ages range from eleven to twenty. They are [...]

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Step #2 to Less Stress: Recognition

June 15, 2010

Each step in our six step process to living with less stress is important. But, if I had to pick one as the most important, it would be RECOGNITION. Without recognition nothing can change. Recognition is finally saying my life, or at least one aspect of it, is not working and I want to change [...]

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Denial, The First Step in Healing

May 28, 2010

This is a deeper explanation of the first step in our six step process to living with lower stress and better relationships in all aspects of our lives. The first step is denial. Denial is a state we are all in all of the time, even if we don’t want to admit it. We are [...]

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